Week 5 - Compare and Despair

From How To Be Here

“In the movie Comedian, Jerry Seinfeld runs into a young comedian named Orny Adams

backstage at a club where they are both performing and Orny says to him,

‘You get to a point where you’re like, how much longer can I take it?’

Jerry is utterly perplexed by Orny’s statement, asking, ‘what - is time running out?’

Orny then begins a litany of complaints and excuses - ‘I’m getting older...I feel like I’ve sacrificed so much of my life.’

Jerry is amazed, ‘Is there something else you would rather have been doing? Other appointments or places you gotta be?’

Then Orny pulls out a new line of complaints: ‘I see my friends making a lot of money... Did you ever stop and compare your life? Okay, I’m twenty-nine and my friends are all married and they all have kids and houses. They have some sort of sense of normality. What do you tell your parents?’

Jerry’s response, ‘Are you out of your mind? This has nothing to do with your friends. It’s such a special thing. This has nothing to do with making it.’


This has nothing to do with making it. It is such a special thing.

Be honest. Why are you really doing this?
Do you love and value it?
Is it special to you?
Or do you want some pay off at the end of it?
Do you want some return on your investment?
Are you only willing to love if you get something in return? Or are you here for a fucking Dharma? To give a gift?

To know your own unfolding through artistic expression?
Is there something else you would rather be doing???????


It’s a little tough love.
But if we are withholding or giving love conditionally then we ought to be bitch slapped about it.

If you are wasting your time comparing your journey to someone else then you are wasting your gift.

“Decide now that you will not spend your precious energy speculating about someone else’s life and how it compares with yours.” Bell

Every single human, every single artist has struggle. We don't know what we don’t know.

We have NO RIGHT to compare what we SEE to the entire existence of a person. We do not know what it took for someone to be where they are.
And no one knows what it took for us to be where we are.
Or what we took from ourselves. Our own attention. We gave it away.

The Universe, the creative source of energy does not make “mistakes.”
Don’t you think if your path was supposed to look like someone else’s then you would have been born AS THEM?
Stop wasting your time.

Either go in, or get out.

There will always be someone better, stronger, faster, smarter, more talented. So what?
They are not here to do what you are here to do.

Get back into your own life.
Or you will get to the end of it having never lived it.

I know, I know....tough love, but love nonetheless. Because you waking up is all that matters.
We need you.


Jen Rudolph